Monday, June 13, 2011


Some people have asked why the orange for Wendy, was it her favorite color or something. I often joke that Wendy never picked a favorite color because she didn’t want the other colors to feel bad, even our wedding was made up of all the spring colors and not just one or two. The orange actually comes from her incredible co-workers at Riverton Hospital. She absolutely loved working with them and being able to help bring babies into the world as a labor and delivery nurse. Wendy had found a pair of Crocs online that were bright orange that she would wear to work every time. The contrast of those with the royal blue scrubs that the IHC nurses would wear made her shoes stand out and became part of her personality at work. And, no, she was not a Boise State fan. After she died her co-workers got orange wristbands as a tribute to Wendy. I really think she would get a kick out of that and is smiling. After that, orange just became a natural thing for us as family and friends to feel connected to Wendy. I love seeing the bright orange on my friends and neighbors and family and knowing why they are running in it or wearing it. It makes me smile to think of the people that she has touched.

As I was looking through her work bag I came across a stack of thank you notes from women and families that had sent her a note thanking her for her extra tender care while they were there at the hospital. I loved reading them, and I couldn’t help be a little sad that I never really got the chance to be a fly on the wall and see her at work. I am sure HIPPA has issued regulation fly swatters for such an occasion. I would have loved to see it though. I was very proud of the work she did, who knows, maybe she gets to send them off now rather than receive them here, it’s a good thought.

I write in my journal a lot lately and some of the things I write get put onto the blog and some things get written just for the blog, that said, I don’t go back and make sure I am not repeating myself, so I am sorry if things get said twice, maybe they needed to be.

The week before may 21st Julie was called by someone involved with the race called “running with angels” at thanksgiving point. They invited us to run or just come out and be at the event. I felt like it was a good idea and when we got there they had me and the kids release some of the white doves before the race. It was a good experience and I know as my kids get older and begin to look back on the things we did around this time, it will be with fond memories and gratitude for those that were around us at this time. Most of Wendy’s and my family was there wearing orange shirts in memory of Wendy and Maylee. It was a great morning and it was a beautiful run through the gardens there at thanksgiving point, Spring has always been one of Wendy's favorite times. It was good to be there in such a large group of people most of who were there to remember someone special in their lives that they are waiting to see again. I am grateful to those that invited us, and I think we will make it a yearly tradition.

My incredible neighbors and close friends have been busy working on a gathering for Wendy and Maylee and us and I didn’t know until just recently just how much they have been doing. They have been busy on our behalf and again I cannot express enough how much love I have for them. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with and I will never forget the bond I have formed with these incredible people through these trials. I told them I would post the link of the website they have put together, they have done a great job and I think it will be a really fun day.

www.mackfamilyfund.com

I was looking through the blog again and I have not been able to catch up on all the loving comments left, but last night I sat and looked at a picture of a beautiful sunset in Australia with Maylee’s name written in the sand. How beautiful and thoughtful. Thank you. I came home the other day to find a bag with a book that the women from church had put together of their thoughts and memories of Wendy. That has been great for me to read through. There have been many tender mercies like this and I wish I could tell you about every one of them, I only hope that everyone feels my appreciation for all the love and support that has been given to me and my little ones. With love, I thank you.

6 comments:

Dave and Mare said...

I remember a time when me and Wendy were little, we decided to put tabasco sauce on our mouths so that we could build up an immunity to its hotness to better prepare ourselves for when we said a bad word and would get it as punishment. I still think to this day that WEndy never once got Tabasco, nor did I ever hear her say something that would lead to that. I love you Denny.

Denny and Wendy said...

Haha, Dave, I never heard her say anything like that either, but she did like tabasco on her tacos on occasion so maybe her reasoning was different, she might have only told you that she was building immunity when she was secretly enjoying it...hmmm I wouldn't put it past her.

Erin said...

Denny, I just want to echo the hundreds of comments and tell you that I think you are amazing. I remember telling you after you and Wendy were sealed (and meeting you for the first time!) "You are a lucky man" to which you replied "I know." I knew that any guy who would be able to snag my most beloved cousin, Wendy, would be so lucky! After reading your words in regard to your sweetheart, it is very clear to see that she was just as lucky, no doubt. I also think about your little family a lot. Thank you for having the courage to write down your thoughts at such a difficult time in your life. You are bringing more peace and comfort to more people than you know!

Molly said...

I just wanted you to know that you are always in our thoughts. This is the first time I haven't gone on my own with a pregnancy so I would also like to think that she is up there sending her down to us. She needed to get to know Maylee better before she could come. We love you.

Meradith said...

Hi Denny, you don't know me but I am a stay at home mother of 2 in Provo and was sent a link to your blog by a friend. Reading it has brought me to tears on several occasions. My heart and prayers go out to you and your beautiful children in every way possible.

I'd like to send you an audio CD but don't know how to go about it because being asked for your home address is totally creepy from an internet stranger.:) Do you have a work address I could send it to? It's entitled "What's on the other side?" by Brent L. Top, are you familiar with it? I just think you need to have a copy. When you get a minute could you email me at meraboo at hotmail dot com and let me know how I can get it to you? It's fascinating and wonderful and peace-giving.

Please know you have many who pray on your behalf that you don't even know. Hang in there, keep the faith.

Megan is Chuck. Chuck is Megan. said...

Denny, You also have never met me. The foundation I work for is the one who puts on Running With Angels. I had to no idea of the connection until I read this post. We have some beautiful pictures of your sweet family and I would love to find a way to get them to you.

To repeart Meradith's words, strangers are truly praying for you.

http://meganelizabethsturges.blogspot.com/2011/06/happiness-every-single-day.html

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